super easy

1. Complete the “Support Your Choices” exercises on pages 188-192. Click here to 

download a copy of the exercise workbook pages.

(YOU DO NOT HAVE TO COMPLETE THESE. tHEY ARE JUST FOR YOUR REFERENCE TO REVIEW AND HELP WITH THE FOLLOWING PAPER)

 

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2. Using MS Word, WordPad or Notepad, answer the following question: Now that you

have a better sense of how you express yourself and how self-expression affects your life, 

list three areas of improvement you plan to make and how.

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Exercise

1:

Rewriting the (Future) Script

Part Two Write it Out
Now you’re going to write out everything you want to say to the person you’re interacting with, without any edit-
ing. This is for your eyes only. When you’re finished, take a moment to read it over and see if you can identify a
few key ideas, sentences, or phrases that really get to the heart of what you want to get across to this person,
and circle or underline them. Next, you’re going to boil these down to your ‘real message’ (taking out any reac-
tive language)—the thing you most want to get across or change.

Real Message

Part One The Situation
Think either of the situation you used in your Becoming Aware Snapshot, or of any other situation where you’ve
not yet been able to maintain your composure or express yourself in a clear and rational way while dealing with
a particular person. First, briefly write out the circumstances and what takes place during this interaction. Then
write down anything you think might be acting as a trigger for you—any words or behaviors that trigger you to
act in destructive or otherwise disempowering ways.

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Constructive Communication Strategies

C

Clarify:

A/V

Acknowledge and Validate:

Ex

Express Our Feelings/Needs:

F

Find Common Ground:

O

Offer a Solution:

NOTE: It may help to think about the things (statements or actions) that trigger you in this situation,
and consider how you might use the tools to respond to them (e.g. when X says Y, I will say Z)

Part Three Use the Constructive Communication Strategies

Consider how you might be able to use one or more of the Constructive Communication Strategies
to get your ‘real message’ across the next time you’re in this situation. Fill in the chart below, giving
yourself a couple of options for each strategy. You may want to refer to Part Two: Write it Out for
some ideas.

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Situation: _________________________________________________________________________________

How I’ve handled it:

The short-term outcome:

The long-term outcome:

The core critic belief that supports this behavior:

My new core coach belief:

The next time I’m in this situation, I’m going to say/do:

The short-term outcome:
The long-term outcome:

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